The Struggle is Real
Guest Post from Nicole Unice
There’s a question we throw around that I bet means a whole lot more than we would expect. How many times a week—or a day!–are you asked:
“How are you?”
I don’t know about you, but the answer I hear and give the most is something like …. ”fine”, or —“busy but good!”? It’s kind of the socially acceptable answer, right?
A friend asked me this question just this week as I walked into work. I was multitasking as usual while knee deep into a cell phone conversation about yet another problem. I didn’t answer her, because if I did—if I really stopped and answered—I might have started crying, right there on the spot. My lips formed the word “fine” when in reality, I was anything but—at least not in that moment. And life doesn’t always stop long enough to give a real answer….
But isn’t “fine” the socially accepted answer because it works….or does it?
The reality is, we are all struggling, to different degrees and complexity levels, each and every day. The Struggle IS Real, and when you add up both the little and big daily struggles, it’s easy to understand why this hashtag social media rockstar exists—over 3 million deep at #thestruggleisreal.
But if we dig a little deeper into this common complaint, we might discover a much more sinister root—and real help toward freedom and wisdom in Christ.
In my newest book, The Struggle is Real, that’s what I’ve done. I address issues like:
- Life is much harder than I thought it would be, and I feel bad saying it.
- There are some things about myself that I can’t change…it’s just how I am, and it frustrates me.
- I really don’t know if God is interested in my life, and even if He is, I don’t know how to hear from Him.
(and if you are wondering how real your struggle is, I’ve included a Good Life Inventory on p. 14!)
I wrote this book because I know how real the struggle truly is—and I want us to discover the true source of the answer to these age-old problems. My hope is to take my readers through a journey into this gap between our “just fine” lives and the truly good lives we are seeking and are hungry for. To offer hope that we can live the best life we can, this side of heaven.
Yep, the struggle is definitely real. But the struggle can also start the story. It can motivate us to rewrite our lives into a new story. The struggles can lead us to a new source of hope and freedom, and somehow, even the worst of life can become a place of strength and growth. The struggle is real. And the struggle can be good.
Nicole Unice is an author and bible teacher who has a passion for bringing God’s Word to life in a personal and relevant way. Her training as a counselor informs her work, with an emphasis on the importance of facing our own reality and embracing the transforming power of God’s grace.
Nicole’s invitations to speak have taken her across the world, and her books come to life with her popular video curriculum series found on Right Now Media. Her heart belongs to Hope Church, where she serves as the ministry director and leads Praxis, a full-time ministry residency program for young leaders..
Nicole holds degrees from the College of William and Mary and Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary. She loves creating a space for ministry and spiritual formation in the everyday rhythms of life with three children, two pups, one husband, and a whole community of twenty somethings who are usually around raiding the fridge.
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Book Review by Bree Herron
“Fiddle Sticks”, “Shucks”, “Oh,Phooey”! These are the phrases that come out of my mouth when #thestruggleisreal . Ice cream falling off the cone like the cover, welcome to my world. I told a friend the moment this book showed up that it was truly a book about my life. Granted, I didn’t write it and it isn’t fiction but it is right there with me.
I found myself nodding, saying “yeah”, and thinking “this is me” through the book. First read, went this way, I was focused on how it correlated with my world. Second read, I was ready to try and apply. I was taking note on details and suggestions. Want to know a hint? It is so easy! The struggle bus won’t be chugging up the hill for you as hard after reading this book. I feel as though many will read this book and be ready to cheer “I can do this!” because it really makes sense and it is easier than picking up fallen ice cream from the floor. So eat your ice cream sundae, pick up this book and find out how to make the struggle a bit better.
**DISCLAIMER: I was provided an opportunity to read this book as an Advanced Reader Copy in return for a fair and honest review.
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